Alicia and Timothy emphasize the importance of:
1. Filling out your dating profile wholeheartedly to reflect your hobbies/interests
2. First impressions and first messages
3. Patience and honest communication
Timothy: I had seen Alicia’s profile and I couldn’t write her due to her preferred mail settings, so I just prayed she would look at my profile and write me. My prayers were answered. I was shocked she messaged me! I felt bad because I had just started my 2 hour commute back home, so I wasn’t able to reply until I got home.
Alicia: In my settings on my profile I had selected “only upgraded users can message me” because I loved having the freedom to message who I really wanted to. So I had to message Timothy first. I wrote a short message just saying “hello, I love your profile.”
I saw he read the message but after about a half hour, I didn’t hear back so I thought he wasn’t interested and it made me a little sad.
Timothy: Since it was so long since Alicia had messaged me, I made sure that I read her message and her profile very carefully. Since it took me so long to even read the message, I made sure to make my first impression count.
I took one subject from each of her sections that stood out to me or that I could relate to. As I kept reading, I saw the woman of my dreams.
A woman that likes to fish but hates to eat seafood, a gamer, and has a beautiful singing voice. Match made in heaven.
Alicia: 30-40 minutes after I had sent my message to Timothy, I received a notification that he wrote me back! My heart skipped a beat.
I opened the message and he had written the longest message I had ever seen! I knew at that very moment he was interested in getting to know me. He took his time to read my whole profile and asked questions. I was in complete shock that he invested that much time in his first message to me.
Our first conversation was about every single thing on my profile and his! We just clicked right away! It was like a key fitting in its own key hole. We haven’t stopped talking from that moment on.
The First Date
Timothy: Our first date; that day started out in a rush and a total wreck, literally. I got into a car accident that morning before work and I had to take the day off. I was not going to it stop me from having the best date I had ever been on. A date filled with talking, bowling, and enjoying our time together resulting in an amazing day.
Alicia: I have full custody of my two kiddos so the person had to be 100% worth it for me to pay for a sitter to go on a date. I knew Timothy was worth it. We didn’t bowl much, we mainly just sat talking for hours on end….everything was so natural and exciting!
I knew they were the one
Timothy: I knew Alicia was the one the first time I read her profile.
Alicia: I knew he was the one for me when he told me to take my time and he would be patient and wait for me to open up. I was in an abusive marriage before so I had very high, large, solid walls up and could never let anyone in. He was the only one who was able to get through my walls to my heart and that, in itself, is a huge thing for me. I was falling in love without trying and it was scary but exciting.
What I Love Most
Timothy: Even until this very day, she still shows me how much she loves me and that she loves me for who I am. I am perfect the way I am, even if we disagree, that is okay. We will work it out and continue to accept each other for the perfect people we are for each other.
Alicia: I love his passionate, loving, caring, and giving heart. I love his optimism and how genuine he is. His loyalty and how he is the most amazing father. I love how he loves my children from my marriage as his own. He knows how to genuinely apologize and not make the same mistakes. We have not had a single argument. We have disagreed but we just talk it out and compromise.
I feel beyond blessed every single day that we crossed paths, thanks to POF!